no one likes it, but we always seem to and always will seem to have them
synonym - problem
Win - Lose
You may get what you want but the other person doesn't get what they want.
Lose - Win
The person you have a conflict with gets what they want because you want to make them happy. Although it sounds OK, you don't truly get what you need because the other person never thinks about your feelings.
Lose - Lose
No one gets what they want. All the arguing, fighting and name calling don't allow people to make a deal of come up with a plan so no one gets what they really needed.
Win - Win
Everyone gets what they want. Whether we take turns, share, or come up with a plan both people get the think they want.
Habit #3, "A Place for Everything" means exactly what you would think it would mean; Put the things use you back where they belong when you are finished using them! Simply put, "put your things away!"
There is a spot for everything we own. Our shoes have a spot in our room or next to our door, our fire engine truck and doll house have a spot in our toy box or in our closet, our toothbrush has a spot in the cabinet or in the toothbrush holder, our milk has a spot in the refrigerator. But why? We put everything in it's own spot so we can find it next time we look for it. It always seems like the one time we decide to not put something away in the right spot, that we have no idea where to find it the next time we really need it! Being neat and organized not only helps us find what we are looking for when we need it, but it also looks good to!
"A Place for Everything" is also teaches us about prioritizing, or doing the most important things first and waiting to do the things that we don't need to get done right away second. In other words, we need to do our work first so we can have fun later. By planning the things we need to do ahead of time we will have more time for the things that we want to do. For example, if we plan to get our homework done as soon as we get home from school, then we will have more time to spend doing what we want for the rest of night. However, if we decide to do whatever we want when we get home from school right away, we may not get much time to do it because will be have to do out homework later! Using a calendar, planner, or chart can be a big help when trying to get your work done first so you can play more later!!
Things we have to dovs.Things we want to do Chores, Doing your HW, Cleaning your room, Sleeping, Eating, Taking care of your body Activities - sports, a painting class, ballet, piano Time to Relax- watch TV, go to an amusement park, talk with your friends
What are some areas in your house or some things in your room that you can put away in the right place?
What are some thing you can plan ahead for?
You can tell the way a person feels by looking at their face.
Habit #1, Just the Way I Am, first and foremost teaches us to be proud of who we are. Everything about ourselves is unique making nobody exactly the same as us. We need to make sure we are celebrating the things that make us special!
Habit #1 also teaches us about our emotions (the way we feel)! There are TONS of emotions that we can feel throughout our day! Greater than the number of feelings we have is the number of times during the day our feelings can change. In a matter of seconds we can go from being happy to sad or from being nervous to proud. Our feelings change depend on the situation we are in.
Thinking about all the emotions you have and can potentially feel can be overwhelming, however what we sometimes don't realize is that we are in change of our feelings! We can control them, they don't need to control us! In order words, We are the Boss of our Feelings!
5 Keys to Feelings:
1. Everybody has feelings
2. Feelings will never go away
3. All feelings are good feelings - There are no "Bad Feelings"
4. It's OK to feel mad, nervous, upset, ect.
5. Your the Boss of your feelings
6. Expressing our feelings to others is the hardest thing to do, but the most rewarding. We need to work on expressing how we feel to others.
Habit #1, Just the Way I Am, teaches us to be proud of who we are and that we are in charge of ourselves. We control our feelings, thoughts, and actions. No one can tell us to feel or how to think!
You may be thinking that this can not be true! That your mom, dad, brother, sister, aunt, uncle, grandma, and grandpa always tell me what to do!
Although they may tell you what to do, they do not control the way you feel or how you should think. These people can effect your feelings and thoughts, but they never have control over them!
That's where you being in charge of yourself comes in. The people around us can effect the way we feel and how we may think, but we are always left with the final choice. We can choose to let what they did or what they said effect us in a positive or negative way.
Stand Tall, Molly Lou Melon
Feeling proud of who you are begins as you learn more about yourself and strengthens as you share who you are with others. Share your answers to the statements below with a friend! I'm certain you will feel proud of yourself "Just the Way You Are!"
1. Something I am good at is...
2. Something I have done recently that I am proud of is...
3. Something I like to do is...
4. Something I am able to do that may be hard for others my age is...
5. My favorite thing to do at school is...
6. My favorite thing to do at home is...
7. With my friends I like to...
In which drawler do you keep your socks? Where is the trash can in your kitchen? How do you take a picture using your phone?
Have you ever wondered how you know the answers to these very simple questions and even how you do these things in your life everyday without even thinking about it?
The answer is because your mind has made finding your socks in right drawler, throwing the trash away in he right place, and clicking on the gray camera app on your phone a habit. Your mind and body has worked together to do these things so many times that you do not need to think about how to do them anymore.
So then, a habit is something we do over and over again without even thinking about. We have developed hundreds of habits throughout our lifetime. Many of those habits are probably good ones, while some may be bad and need to be worked on a little bit. Either way, good habit or bad habit, we have done these habits so many times that at this point we don't even realize we are doing it!
Take for example, the way we fold our hands before we pray.
Do you interlock the fingers together?
Do you cups your hand together?
Do you keep your hands straight and point them up to heaven?
There is not wrong way to fold your hands for prayer, but you fold your hands the way you do now because you have made it a habit. Your folded your hands the same way for so long that it feels "natural and more importantly right."
But, what if you wanted to change the way you fold your hands before prayer. The good news is that you most definitely can because your are stronger than your habits! At first it will feel "weird and awkward" and you will have to think about it the way you want to fold your hands each time you pray. Along the way you may even go switch back to the old way your folded your hands before pryer. Eventually, folding your hands in the new way you choose will begin to happen without you thinking about it! Folding your hands for prayer the old way you did it may actually feel weird now!
In order to continue to grow, our job needs to be to work on turing our bad habits (the things our parents and teachers remind us to do differently each time we do them) into something that can help us to be more successful each day!
As mentioned, there are some habits that we have that we are definitely in tune to, but most of the habits we have developed are ones that we are hardly aware of! Check out these read aloud books on Habits. See if you can pick out some of the Good and Bad Habits of the Brother and Sister Bear and Sam and his animals!
Lose - Win
Lose - Lose 
